I have a mixed history with family functions over the years. When I was little, I both enjoyed having so many visits from the siblings that lived away and hated not being the centre of attention when they were there, even if I didn’t realize it at the time. Later, I saw some of the chaos that came with the group activities, and often rated the costs higher than the benefits. I much preferred a series of smaller family events than huge ones with everyone. That continued into my adult years, and for a time, I was the only one of the siblings that got along with the rest most of the time. The peacemaker as some saw it; the conflict avoider was closer to the truth.
After burying my mom, and seeing the dysfunction of our family at its worst, large family events have not been on my to do list. » Read the rest