Way back when I got married, some 10 years ago now, we discussed the fact that we were taking a pretty simplified and organized approach to our planning, somewhat different from what we found online, and perhaps when we were done, we’d write it up and post it too. Well, fast-forward ten years and I’ve never made the time to do it. Lots of other topics intervened, and yet I had it on my list. Partly even just to be able to share some of the photos as examples.
A little over a month ago, I saw a guide online and thought, “Okay, we’re out of date, but maybe somebody out there will find it interesting at least.” And so I added it as a 50by50 item. Sixteen topics broken down into 9 posts:
As I wrapped up the previous post, I said the next one was optional for some people, hence why I kept it for last. In reality, photography in general is probably not optional, everyone wants some mementos. But there are FIVE big questions you will have to decide when it comes to photography.
A. Professional or not?
Picture this scenario. You’ve just spent six months planning what is likely the biggest event of your life. It probably comes third behind buying a house or buying a car in terms of the total cost, but maybe even second if you’ve never bought a NEW car. And the amount of work you put into it is way above the research you likely did on houses or cars. It’s BIG. And it all takes place in a single day. No rewind. No take-backs. No do-overs. We’re live, baby.
Whew. The WEDDING is over. Many times you thought, “What about eloping?”. Not because you didn’t want to do the wedding, but simply because you were TIRED of discussing EVERYTHING. I almost feel like planning a wedding is a great test for marriage. Because once you are married, you’re going to have to do a whole bunch of “joint” decision-making, and what better way to do it than to make you spend six months doing it UNDER PRESSURE? 🙂
Okay, I exaggerate of course. Partly as there were very few times in the six months where we were exasperated with each other, because we were doing it “together”. In fact, I almost feel like the planners and trackers helped ensure it WAS being done together. At this point, you basically have six things left to do, and the first two are often related.
After six months of having just about every free moment tied up with this big project, it’s time to relax. » Read the rest
Even though you are planning the biggest party of your life in six months, even though you have lots of other things to do to, it isn’t like life just stops because you’re getting married, you still have to go to work, walk the dog, maybe take the kids to daycare, whatever, no matter that you have all this going on, people are going to throw MORE parties for you.
Rehearsal dinners (although you might do that yourself).
Post-wedding brunch (again, you might organize that yourself).
Parties upon parties upon parties. And the important thing is that the parties are not about you. They’re not. Someone else wants to throw you a party, and your role is to say, “Thank you” and get out of the way. Usually.
Which isn’t to say that you won’t enjoy them, or appreciate them, you will. Yet often it is hard not to think, “But what about the 17 things I was planning to do this week and haven’t gotten to yet? » Read the rest
When I was married ten years ago, having a “wedding website” was considered relatively new. Sure, some people had them, and there were a few basic sites out there that offered some options, but it wasn’t everywhere. Now, pretty much every wedding has one. Because websites can help with a lot of things:
A place for people to do confirmations of attendance (i.e. RSVP) and indicate their meal preference in real time;
Provide links for hotel registration or maps of the area;
Post photos of the events so far (and for the wedding afterwards); and,
Links to a gift registry for the happy yet possibly greedy couple.