Green goals are my “emotion” goals, the “feelings”, the warm fuzzy side of me. Not my strongest area, but not quite as weak as my normal “yellow” / social ones. In 2016, I limited myself to only three.
MY GREEN GOALS: Stick to the knitting
Under the general heading of Andrea, I had hoped to have some date nights out, a few game nights and to take a family trip. We had a few date nights, but nowhere near enough, and much of that is my fault. I often like to go out for dinner, etc., but I am not looking for fancy or anything, just eating out, and Jacob is old enough to come without too much distraction. So we usually do things as a trio than as a couple, and truth be told, I like exposing Jacob to new things. But most of the time, Andrea and I commute together which is good, hang out with the cub from supper to bedtime, often in the office together for a half-hour or hour or so after that, and then I tend to watch TV while she works, surfs or reads.
I spent a bit of time thinking about the green sections, the “emotion” side for intuitive introverts, after I had finished the draft model. It wasn’t really “singing” to me. I reworked it below to focus on three streams — one for family, one for the intellectual outward-facing side (?) of emotion leading to spiritualism, and one that is more about community. I don’t know if it is quite the right model, but it works better for me than the previous one.
One of my big items in the last year was connecting more with Jacob, and I wish it had gone better. I had hoped that Jacob would be interested in “big” event style evenings where we did a project or something together, maybe crafts, something. But that wasn’t really grabbing the cub’s attention. He did like helping me build some shelving, but that was the exception rather than the rule. » Read the rest
For my green goals, I’ve talked about most of them already, or at least the two big ones. I did also vague book about one of the smaller ones, and I’ve now explained in greater detail (Men who like meat!). But the ongoing stuff for green has been relatively absent. I’ve already noted in a previous blog entry that “green” areas are really hard to plan for in some ways, and not conducive to goal setting, tracking, “managing” in normal sense. Case in point — I have no green “bucket list” items to add this year. Let’s start putting the other pieces together though.
GREEN PRIORITIES (Emotion, family, friends)
My two big goals on this for the year are “Jacob and Me” and “Random Acts of Romance (RaR)”, and I have already blogged about both of them.
For the on-going, day to day commitments, I have three general headings:
Family — with the death of my Mom two years ago, the family lost some of its natural cohesion, leaving any remaining interactions up to us to spark.
On my vaguebooking list, I had an item for men who like meat, and tagged a bunch accordingly. This probably wasn’t that vague for most of them as I started an outing a number of years ago called “MMMMM”. It stood for “Mid-Month Movie Madness for Men”, basically a guys night out to grab some dinner beforehand and then a movie. But attendance varied depending on the movie, location, timing, etc. I tried kickstarting it a few times, but it never really gelled as an outing.
Later, it morphed into an occasional wing night here and there, and the MMMMM transformed into “Mid-month Madness for Men who like Meat”. Why limited to men? No real reason other than that I frequently get to do outings with friends and couples, but rarely just the guys. It isn’t just about seeing friends or eating wings, it’s also an opportunity to just have a guys night regularly that I won’t do if I don’t schedule it. » Read the rest
The “Heart” category is one that is represented by the Warm Green of emotions. It is the feeling me, the how-I-relate-to-others me.
In the past, some of my successes in this area have been getting married, having a child, more structured relations with my extended family, travelling with Andrea, becoming less squirrelly, career support (2-way), some mentoring, outings with friends (like MMMMM), house parties, holidays together with others, outings with Jacob and Andrea, and generally learning to be a better husband, father, and (hopefully) son.
Last year,I held myself to just six priorities but I made almost zero progress. Sure, I continue to support Andrea in her career relating to her M.Ed., helping to make sure she has the time to do it without having to do it as a complete “add-on” or trying to kill herself. I wanted to do more lunchtime outings with Andrea, and it did happen sporadically. » Read the rest