When I was married ten years ago, having a “wedding website” was considered relatively new. Sure, some people had them, and there were a few basic sites out there that offered some options, but it wasn’t everywhere. Now, pretty much every wedding has one. Because websites can help with a lot of things:
A place for people to do confirmations of attendance (i.e. RSVP) and indicate their meal preference in real time;
Provide links for hotel registration or maps of the area;
Post photos of the events so far (and for the wedding afterwards); and,
Links to a gift registry for the happy yet possibly greedy couple.
The next three items are relatively easy, but there are a few little nuances here and there. But since they’re not complicated, I’ve lumped them all in the same post.
The accommodations question comes up if you have many out-of-town guests — they need somewhere to stay, presumably. And most people organizing a wedding will suggest location x or y, somewhere near the venue (or if you’re in a traditional banquet hall, perhaps the attached hotel itself). Hotels will sometimes be helpful when you book these rooms. If you’re doing a wedding with them in their ballroom, they know you’re spending a ton on food and alcohol, so they might give you a small group rate on the rooms. You can negotiate for better rates than they first offer you, but often they’ll only give you a better rate IF you guarantee the rooms. For example, they’ll offer you a special rate of $150 a night, but if you guarantee all 25 rooms for that night, they’ll reduce it to $125. » Read the rest
I said at the start of the previous post that the ceremony was one of the two biggest challenges in planning, and the other is the reception. If you have more time, you might go with something like a hotel or a banquet room, and the likelihood is that you may be the 5000th reception they have ever done, or perhaps even the SECOND one THAT DAY, if they had an afternoon one. So what does that mean? It means that, like any traditional venue with lots of experience, the conversation with them will be along the lines of:
Hi, welcome to our planning session. We’re so happy you’ve decided to have your event with us, and to make us part of your day as you start your life together! We’re so excited!
Before we start, do you have any particular theme in mind? No? Okay, well let’s start with the basics.
Since the actual ceremony doesn’t happen until near the end of the six months, it may seem a bit odd to treat it as the next of the 16 headings. However, the reason I do so is because so much of the planning that goes on and the tasks that have to be done in advance are related to figuring out what your ceremony looks like for the big day. As such, I’m going to walk through this one early as it is one of the two biggest components (the other is the reception). Let the games begin.
Decide on a maid/matron of honour [and what role you want them to play! (overlap with the Planning category)]
Why start with your bridal party? Partly because you may want them involved in a few of the early things you have to do RIGHT NOW, like buying a dress, and if you do want their help, you need to decide right away who it will be. » Read the rest
As I mentioned in the last post, we kind of “decided” this was the year we were both ready and we would move forward with a wedding. We’d been together six years, were already living together and had bought a house together, but we hadn’t gotten married yet. Without getting too far into personal details, my wife is a lot younger than me, and while she was ready for the rest, she wasn’t ready for marriage and I wasn’t pushing. So I didn’t want to spring an engagement ring on her if she wasn’t ready. » Read the rest